Relationships

Tribute n˚31

You and I, me and we

How “I” stands big and tall. A pillar, the lighthouse watching the city go to sleep.

How “we” is soft and sWEet, symphonic, blissfully deep. 

“we” knows about modesty. About fruitful pain, compromising expansion, strong acceptance and vulnerable equality.

“we” never forgets about “I”. It could not live without it and knows it. “we” appreciate “I” and never takes it for granted, as “we”, without “I”, might never be.

“I” forgets about “we”. Only from time to time, never on purpose. Don’t judge me. 

See, “I” thrIves on “we”. It feels magnified, electrified while developing through “we”. 

It finds no ending to the horizon of what this addition might be. 


one+one=3. You and me, and the small “we” created lately. Maybe we renounced when “we” became too big and tried to compete with me. 

I-we hurts. Grief of what this person could be. Until I realise that the “we” that you made flourish within me always will be.


I know it's Monday, but do not forget to spread the love, dear self-lovers!

Tribute n˚18

My feet are too big, so I often fall. In love. 

It can sound quite like a mad idea, and yet, the expression "falling in love" to describe the process of liking someone’s charm and personality could not be more accurate. 

It seems like we lost our focus for a second and we fell. In love. At the moment we least expected it.

If the lust is reciprocal, we enter the "honey moon" period. Everything about them seems perfect. Their weird obsessions make ours look less eccentric, we suddenly feel less lonely and finally understood. We are just the same. With different hair.

Until fall comes and we decide to change haircut. They feel that something changed and we frown, thinking "who is this person?".

The person we fell in love with did not disappear, but the illusion did. Not that we changed or they changed, but we realise we are not the same person after all. We are in fact completely different. If this time can be challenging for the parties involved, disillusion should be welcomed as a blessing. It is the perfect opportunity to cleanse love from the superficial. Because it is easy to love someone for their strengths, but harder to stay when we discover about their "flaws". And oh man, they are and will be plenty !

If disillusion is frequent in relationships, it's maybe because it is merely unavoidable. Further more, this process is essential. Disillusion reveals the false, the neglected of what we called a bit too fast love. We either realise we should take different paths, or we can decide, after falling, to rise in love. If falling in love is always a pleasant and yet arduous surprise, rising in love is a conscious choice that finds roots in the will to get to know the other one, and ourselves, just a little bit better.